When the way to our dreams is fraught with potholes of self doubt and uncertainty, what are we really to do?
One of the first reactions would be to believe all the stories that our mind is telling us. Things such as “this is too hard, I’m not up for this, I’m not getting paid enough, this is too intense, I have to find another way to live, I can’t do this.”
These were the exact thoughts rolling through my mind as I was completing a jewellery project recently. You would think that after 30 years of practicing my craft, these thoughts would have been extinguished by the breath of accomplishments that I have had. No. Such is not the case. The doubts and questioning of my craft and ability are still constant companions.
I realize that my skill, or duration practicing anything, will have no affect on this doubt. That the doubt is here to say.
And I have a desire to live more lightly with these constant companions.
I’ve heard talk lately that our brains are an ancient creation that are just not up for the numbers of challenges that our modern lives have to deal with. I’m not sure if that is true of not, however, what I do know or rather had witnessed by my morning journalling practice is that I listed at least a dozen things that are on my mind. Concerns for our planet, our wildlife, humanity in general. So the very tool that allows me to interact with you, is also the same tool that floods my consciousness with all the world news that has me feel overwhelmed and unsure how to live amongst my desire and yearnings for change.
Daneille LaPorte was talking about fighting for your Joy on a podcast that I listened to this morning. What would fighting for your joy look like?
What if we acknowledge all of it, our doubt, our desire, our uncertainty and still chose to return to joy? Chose to find a way to create beauty in the world. Chose to find a way to share our love in whatever form we are able to.
That’s where magic happens.
Yesterday I shared love with a friend who is facing a cancer diagnosis. Then I provided support for a woman who has a passion that is still trying to find it’s unique expression. Then I shared in the joy of one of my paintings being received with a client. Then I received payment for the next batch of journals that are destined for an empowering retreat in Bali. The duality of all that is available.
Back to my initial question, what are we to do when all this duality is present?
Change your mind.
Simply change your mind. Literally change what you are thinking about. Rather than the “I can’t do this” switch it to “I am doing this.” I am creating more love in the world than I am extracting. I’m tipping the balance to filling the love cup versus seeing it all dwindling.
Now I don’t know the impact of the jewellery project that I completed, and sent on it’s way, simply because it is still in transit. However, the 90 people who have reacted on Facebook tells me that I have had an impact and it’s a positive impact. If nothing else there is an appreciation for hand crafted beautiful things. The other impact is inspiration. I’m inspiring people in the world by sharing my inspirations. I have always wanted to have a positive impact in people’s lives whether that was through my coaching/wisdom, or through bringing beauty to the world with my work.
The outcome of this article is that even though you have doubt, keep going. If you are feeling pulled and inspired to created something in your life, then find a way to give it some attention. The impact that you are going to have is likely more significant than you can recognize while the doubtful thoughts are rolling around. Change your mind about what is possible for you.
Change your mind about who you are.
Practice radical acceptance for your worries and your dreams because the duality of both will not go away. So fighting what is, does not make it go away. Embrace all that you are, knowing that you are a unique gift to all of us and we need your self-expression. So please do not allow your doubt and uncertainty to run your life. They are strong forces, and there is love and inspiration also available to you.
Change your mind.